Ninja Success

Surround Yourself With SUCCESS

Surround Yourself With SUCCESS
By Clark Faint

I once heard from some random wise source that you as a person are basically the sum of every other person you’ve ever met. This idea is nothing new and I’ve found on many levels how true it really is. I’d be willing to bet that the level of success of your health, wealth, and relationships are directly attributable to the 5 people you spend the most time with. Think about it! If you are rich, successful, healthy, and have tons of great relationships in your life then this is probably no mystery to you. If you aren’t doing as well in these categories and you have a friend that’s sick all the time, a broke or unsuccessful friend that is doing absolutely nothing to improve his/her situation, a friend who is terrible with people, and/or a combination of these in your top five then it’s time to reexamine your current situation!

I’ve had several epiphanies throughout my life about this phenomenon. The first time I somewhat realized it was when I came home to hang out with family and friends after being in the Air Force for a few years. All my friends and much of my family were doing the same old things they had been doing when I left. Many of them were worse off! A few were doing well or better than when I left but I couldn’t really tell you about the friends that aren’t there any more because they are probably the really successful ones who have moved on! In any case, during my interactions with them and throughout the course of all my time spent at home since then I can just sense a difference in myself as I relate to them. I have (and continue to have) life experiences that put me in a position to be much more successful than they are. It’s not that they aren’t capable of success on their own, but that they are either a) content with staying where they are in life or b) settling for what they’ve got and letting their potential go to waste. I still have love, respect, and care for all of my friends. Deep down, however, I know that many of them will stay in the same place they are in for the rest of their lives because they will not make the slightest behavioral changes to get to where they need to go. The level of discipline, responsibility, the constant travel, meeting new people, experiencing new cultures, and overall just gaining experiences from my time in the Air Force and on my own puts me at a huge advantage over many of the people I grew up with. Not to sound condescending, but I feel that I am much more successful and will continue to be than the majority of my old friends for the rest of my life.

Now what about a situation where I was thrust into a group of people who were much more successful in business and life than me? If you’ve read my post about my visit to the Playboy Mansion, it’s obvious that I was a spectator among a great deal of VERY SUCCESSFUL people there. There were many millionaires and multi-millionaires there spread out among many walks of life: actors, professional athletes, writers, models, internet marketers, musicians, and many more. This experience had me in awe at the time. In retrospect, I use it for motivation. In fact I use just about every successful person I come in contact with for motivation whether I meet them personally or not. Remember at the beginning when I said you are a combination of everybody you ever meet? Take that literally. If you have the opportunity to meet someone who has the kind of success you would like to have even a fraction of, enjoy the moment and possibly try to learn a little something from them right then and there. I have had the opportunity to meet quite a few celebrities and if the opportunity presents itself, I try to learn something from each of them. One of my favorite things to ask someone who I would like to emulate in some way is “In two seconds right now, what’s the best piece of advice you can give me about (thing you are most curious about)?”

I’ve gotten many jewels from quite a few successful people this way that I’m sure will go on to serve me well for the rest of my life. Remember “small-chunking” it? Consider it a mini-modeling session.

You don’t have to be out schmoozing with celebrities to take advantage of this though. You can get a much more intimate and prolonged mentoring session by picking up autobiographies or just studying facts about those you admire and who have attained the kind of success you want for yourself. Take time to reflect on the things you read and let them really soak in. What traits make this successful person successful? How can you incorporate that into your routine? Don’t just think about it either. Do it! Make a conscious effort to emulate success.

Another thing to consider is your friends and the company you keep. Do they bring you up and enable you to maintain/grow the level of success you are having now? Or are they content with mediocrity and just want to stay in their rung at the bottom of the ladder? I’m willing to bet that you have more than one friend in your top five that fits the latter description. I know I have had that problem at many times during my life and yes it is a problem. As your success grows you will grow as well and vice versa. Some friends just can’t deal with it.

One of my best friends from back home hung out with me for a week recently and he was really on hard times. I took him out with me around parts of Baltimore and Maryland, which is a much bigger scene than he’s used to. I interacted with people and acted much more assertively and confidently than I’m sure he ever remembers me being when we were younger. At the end of our time together, he was telling me how much I had changed and how it seems like I’m not even the same guy he grew up with. I took that as a compliment. I tried my best to give him some advice he could possibly turn his life around with but as usual I could tell it was going in one ear and out the other. Now I still care for my friend and he could call me any time. But in many respects I’ve cut ties with this guy because he will take away from my success and drag me down in the opposite direction with him. It’s just like when someone is drowning and you have to be very careful about how you approach them to save their life because they will just be so panicked they will drag you both down under the water to a certain death. The point here is to not get dragged under the level of success by a friend who is drowning in failure.

The same thing applies when you are dealing with VERY successful people. You have to realize that they are successful for a reason and if you are going to try to learn something from them, it had better be a very important and well thought out question. This is some insight you want to get from this person that you can’t get just by your own study. These are the kind of people who you want to keep company and counsel with in order to reach their level of success. You don’t want to be the drowning victim who they won’t save because you’ll take you both under, so present yourself accordingly. Take the advice they give you and apply it and use what works and toss what doesn’t, as with any information you use to enrich your life.

One stereotype that I hear a lot of people cast on rich and/or successful people is that “the money changed them”. I don’t think that’s true at all. It all comes back to personal growth. Once they have experienced a level of success far above the people they’ve known, they realize they will have to be around people who have similar drives, goals, objectives, and motivation in order to maintain that success and propel it even higher. This is as true for the small business owner you know down the street as it is for the A-list actor.

This post can be concluded with a few points:

1. Pursue relationships with and learn from the kind of people who have the success you want to have. This may sometimes mean leaving behind friendships so you can gain new ones. This doesn’t mean forgetting about your friends or being too good to talk to or hang out with them any more. It does mean spending more time working on yourself and learning from new mentors and in all likelihood less time with your regular circle of friends.

2. If you have a friend who wants your counsel or advice to get to where you are, GIVE IT TO THEM! But only if you judge them to have the drive and commitment that will get them to a level of success that you can also benefit from them in return.

3. Don’t feel insulted or miffed if your friends comment or complain that you have changed or are changing. Take this as a compliment! They notice your personal growth. This can inspire intimidation or jealousy among some of your less secure friends. It comes with the territory. Don’t hesitate to explain to them the path you are on, but ONLY if they ask. A true friend will not judge you or ask you to stop your train on the fast track to success and you would be foolish to let them do so.

4. Be a value-giver and not a value-taker. Even when you are learning something from a mentor, if you are attentive and ask inquisitive questions you are probably teaching them something just as much you are learning by giving them new insights and perspectives they had not previously considered.

5. Don’t EVER be jealous of another person’s success. Be inspired and motivated by it and use it as an example to learn from and fuel your own success.

Clark

Copyright © 2008 by Clark Faint

Clark Faint
Personal Development: Better Health, Wealth, and Relationships for Life™

http://clarkfaint.com

Clark Faint is extremely motivated in improving every facet of his life and he wants the same for you. He was in the Air Force for 7 years, being fortunate enough to gain many new skills and travel to exotic international locations. He also did a danger-filled tour in Iraq. Now that he has moved on to life after the service, he’s pursuing his passion of writing about personal development techniques that offer VALUE and improve his life so that you can use them to improve yours as well. Clark has read many good books, met many awesome people, partied at the Playboy mansion in Hollywood, and even just sat at home on the weekend to meditate. Clark is just a down-to-earth guy who believes in living an awesome life and helping others.

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Ninja Bloggers

Do you know why Bloggers are like Ninjas? I didn’t either until I read this funny post over at Diligent-Design.

Reason #1 We’re trained in Unorthodox art.

Show me a blogger who uses Drupal (I just cannot get the hang of that software) and I’ll show you a blogger who’s trained in an unorthodox skill. We know SEO, Marketing, Promotion, Content Writing, and that most strange of all the internet phenomenon, we know Social Media. Bloggers know how to sneak keywords into content and still make it exceptional…

To find out more you will have to jump on over to Diligent-Design.

Law Of Attraction – 3 Important Things You Should Know

Law Of Attraction – 3 Important Things You Should Know
By Peter Royle

There are 3 concepts that simply must be part of your understanding if you wish to succeed in making the law of attraction work powerfully for you.

  • Believe your Reality
  • Evolve your Brain
  • Create your Day

Believe your reality

The ultimate tool for making the law of attraction work consistently and powerfully is true belief.

On the surface this may sound romantic, light weight and somewhat simplistic. You say, surely things change because I do something about them, not because I simply believe they will be different.

Nothing could be further from the truth, from a Quantum Physics perspective, your belief, in your reality, is the key to shaping the unseen, collapsing the very fabric of the universe to meet with your expectation, allow me to briefly explain.

Within Quantum Physics there is a concept called super position, basically this is referring to sub atomic particles being located in multiple positions, that is, the same particle being in as many as 3000 different or potential locations simultaneously. When a particle is interacted with through your conscious observation, it collapses to a single point in time and space, and the final location of that particle is determined by where you believe your reality should be set.

Now, everyone is an observer, and everyone is collapsing the quantum field, so your reality is not only made up of that which you believe, but also that which everybody else believes as well.

However, there is a reality which is not yet collapsed, there is a world that has not been observed by anyone except you, that world exists only in your mind, and it is called your future.

To learn more about the methods used to generate and strengthen new beliefs, refer to my article called Law of Attraction – Cooperative Reality.

Evolve your Brain

This next concept is vital, and if you gain some understanding if how it works, it will revolutionize your ability to apply the various law of attraction methods like visualization and intention.

Your reality exists for you as a kind of subjective interpretation of your senses, displayed to you from your subconscious mind in a kind of cinematic presentation. In fact, what you perceive from your surroundings is presented to you as a series of sensory images displayed at roughly 60 frames per second.

When you use the various methods within the law of attraction, visualization, intention, gratitude etc, what you are actually doing is physically rewiring the brain, changing the neural structure of your mind in order for your sub conscious to begin presenting a brand new set of information based around your new image of reality.

The most important thing you must understand about rewiring the brain, is that you must be consistent with the methods, the more regularly you visualize and make intentions, the quicker and stronger you build this new level of mind. This then ties in directly to the first concept, once you begin to build this new structure of reality in the brain, your sub conscious presents that new reality to you, which allows you to consciously believe that it is true.

Create your Day

Last but not least, you are a creator, and you must learn to use your creative ability to your advantage.

The best creative method I have found for use with the law of attraction comes from the teachings of Ramtha, he calls it “Create Your Day”, and here is how it works.

The first thing you need to do is attain a quietened state of mind, and unless you are trained in meditation, you may find this difficult to achieve. There is however, a time in every persons day where this state is natural, it is that moment when you first wake from sleep. This is a very important time, it is the moment before considerations of the day exist, before your existing neural net has begun to boot up along with all of its preconceived ideas about what you should expect in your reality today. At this moment your ability to truly believe a new idea or possibility is open, and you can begin constructing a new framework for reality.

Initially you may not remember to begin this process as soon as you awake, but as I mentioned in an earlier chapter, the important thing is that you activate the creative process whenever you do think about it, and don’t be frustrated if this takes a little while to master, you can even set your alarm as a reminder to begin this process when you first awake, but if you miss that moment just do it when ever you remember.

If you can begin to embrace these three concepts alone, your experience in using the law of attraction will change dramatically. I wish you every success as you reach forward to your new reality.

Kindest Regards

Peter

http://transformingreality.com

Article Source: Peter Royle
Law-Of-Attraction—3 Important Things You Should Know